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It’s Freedom Friday
It’s Freedom Friday!
Freedom Friday is a weekly reminder that we own our stories and have the freedom to share them with the world. Many of us writers who have to deal with narcissistic people find it helpful to be reminded that we are not alone.
It’s been awhile since I wrote here. I felt rather than start off talking about writing, it might be good to catch up.
The last few months have been weird for me just like they were for many people. Many of us lost someone we knew and loved. Sometimes this stop our writing process and yet might inspire future stories. Sending peace to everyone who is grieving.
What I didn’t count on was the end of my thirty year marriage during a pandemic. No, he was not a narcissist—just gay. We grew up as fundamentalist Christians and believed he had to marry a woman or die in a lake of fire. We no longer believe that. We discovered God is love and loves all who live in love. It only made sense to let him be himself and fully himself. We are still good friends, but it still threw me for loop. It also changed the way I was writing my second memoir.
Then my two wonderful cats died within six months of each other. I also reconnected with family that I had previously been low contact with which opened up new dramas—even adding fresh wounds.
If you grew up in a narcissistic family, you might understand how wanting to write about our lives and actually doing it can get very complicated. That’s why I’m simultaneously working on a memoir and novel. It might sound hard, but it’s working for me.
It’s a joy to write the novel and I’m in love with my characters. It started writing the historical fiction because I needed a break from writing about my own life.
Being a writer who works from home, I’ve always relied on a pet to keep me company. When my second cat died, I have to admit it really depressed me for a awhile, but I’m back to writing again.
I now have a darling rescue cat named, “Luna Tallulah Belle” who is my new assistant. She joins me whether I’m writing or playing Wingspan (yes, I’m a bird nerd.)
One advantage to writing with a pet is the way they keep us grounded in the present. Writing about trauma can get tricky. Having a pet who begs to play, wants a snack, or asks to snuggle, reminds us to come up for air and enjoy the here and now.
I just wanted to check in to let you know I’ll be posting here on Fridays with tips on writing. Also for subscriber’s, I’ll soon be posting chapters to my novel again.
So that’s the catch-up from me. What are you writing about these days? Do you have a companion pet that helps you write?
Feel free to share in the comments.
Also if you have any questions about writing memoir, please feel free to ask and I might just write about it.
I hope you are finding time to write this week—your messy stories matter!
PS In case you’re new here, here’s where you can find my first memoir Chasing Eden.