Little Red Riding Hood is the symbol for all who were abused in the name of love. Nothing is more sinister than believing we were loved and safe–only to be ravaged by a wolf in the fold. Little Red thought Grandmother’s house was safe and so did we. It was shocking to find ourselves lied to and abused by the very people who were supposed to love and protect us at home, at school, and at church.
Have You Ever Felt Like Little Red?
Does life feel like a dark, spooky forest full of predators? You might be one of the millions of people who don’t need to imagine this darkness because you’ve already lived through personal trauma—either as a child, or an adult partnered with a narcissist.
Statistics reveal that 1 in 9 girls and 1 in 53 boys under the age of 18 have experienced sexual abuse or assault at the hands of an adult. Those statistics are staggering! And there are other ways to be traumatized which include neglect, physical and emotional abuse—all of these things can happen in the care of a narcissistic parent. If you’re curious about how this child abuse might affect you, you can start by learning your Adverse Childhood Experiences Score here.
Narcissistic Abuse Can
Leave you without a sense of self
Trigger PTSD, anxiety attacks, and hypervigilance
Inhibit your ability to finish things or find a career
Cripple your relationships and leave you feeling alone
Destroy your faith in God
Affect your physical and mental health
Many people who were raised by a narcissistic parent and abused as a child also married an abuser. Others stumbled into marrying a narc unaware of what they were getting into. Many find themselves mired in addictions as a way to escape the past. Until we heal from our trauma, the dark woods of the past will continue to haunt us.
What Happens in Childhood
Never Stays in Childhood
Our only hope is to escape the lies and break the patterns of narcissism. But it takes a dedicated effort to overcome the gaslighting, scapegoating, and ignore the flying monkeys—and the toxic lies in religious narcia are like a whole new level of crazy.
We Get to Choose Our Reactions—
That's Where Our Power Lies
There are many endings to the story of Little Red throughout history and across cultures. in one of the most ancient versions of this tale, Little Red didn’t wait to be rescued but took matters into her own hands. She outsmarted Wolf by saying she needed to use the outhouse. Wolf allowed her to go with a string tied around her finger. As soon as she was out of Wolf’s sight, Little Red wisely tied the string to the outhouse door and ran for her life.
In this version, Little Red didn’t suffer as a victim—nor did she require a prince or woodsman to rescue her, but she rescued herself. You and I can do the same.
Every month Little Red’s Survivor Tips will land in your inbox encouraging you to avoid the swamp monsters and overcome darkness by sharing stories and educational tips about surviving and thriving after narcissistic abuse.
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive, with passion, compassion,
humor, and style. -Maya Angelou
Let’s go hang out with the narcissist,
it’s gonna be fun,(they said).
My name is Cherilyn Christen Clough. I grew up isolated, on the move, and without any friends or high school education, because my parents thought the world would end before I grew up. As a survivor of narcissistic and religious abuse, I wholeheartedly believe no matter what has happened to us in the past, we can find our healing in the present.
I’m not a therapist—I’m just a fellow survivor trying to negotiate life’s chaos and finding ways to live my best life. If you’d like to read the story of my childhood, you can find my book here.
Since publishing my memoir, I’ve noticed continued healing—from going places I avoided, to losing 45 lbs. This is a result of releasing my story to the world. I wasn’t meant to hide my pain—and you weren’t either! When we share our stories with each other, we discover that we are not alone!
If we own our stories, we can avoid being trapped as characters in the stories someone else is telling. -Brené Brown
So Here Are the Details:
Little Red Survivor’s Thrive Edition will come directly into your email inbox each month. This allows you to read it when you have the time and hopefully you can make your favorite hot drink, relax a little, and maybe even add your comments to the conversation—I’d love that!
Just make sure you add this email address to your "trusted" list—otherwise, this email could end up in your spam folder.
The first week of Little Red’s Survivor Tips will ALWAYS be free, while on the other three weeks, I’ll be sharing exclusive content for just $5 a month or $40 a year.
This will include:
The Always FREE Little Red Survivor’s Thrive Edition
Stories and tips about overcoming narcissistic abuse
Little Red Survivor’s Religious Narcia Edition
Religious Narcissism enables the patriarchy and false prophets to continue promoting exclusivity and religious abuse within the church—it’s time to rise up against it!
Little Red Survivor’s Resistance Edition
Current events reveal that white supremacy and patriarchy continue to abuse the people around us, yet none of us are alone. We can help each other cope by networking, resisting, and paying it forward!
Little Red Survivor’s Book Edition
As an author, I am always working on a book. I have three books coming up and would love to hear your feedback, but I’m not ready to share it with just anyone. So if you’d like to be a beta reader or join the book launch team for my next book, you’ll automatically have that opportunity as one of Little Red Survivor’s paid subscribers.
Now, I think $5 a month or $40 a year is a reasonable amount for all of this, but I don’t want anyone to be left out due to money concerns, so if you genuinely can’t afford the monthly subscription, please email me to let me know and I’ll figure something out.
So go ahead—the least you can do is join our community by signing up for Little Red’s Survivor’s FREE Thrive Edition! And please share this post with any kindred spirits you think might benefit.
Peace and freedom to you!