Welcome to Little Red Survivor!
Helping You Survive Narcissism and Religious Abuse
Little Red Riding Hood is the symbol for all who were abused in the name of love. Nothing is more sinister than believing we were loved and safe–only to be ravaged by a wolf in the fold. Little Red thought Grandmother’s house was safe and so did we. It was shocking to find ourselves lied to and abused by the very people who were supposed to love and protect us at home, at school, and at church.
There are many endings to the story of Little Red throughout history and across cultures. One of the most ancient versions of this tale, tells how Little Red didn’t wait to be rescued, but took matters into her own hands. She outsmarted Wolf by saying she needed to use the outhouse. Wolf allowed her to go with a string tied around her finger. As soon as Little Red was out of Wolf’s sight, she wisely tied the string to the outhouse door and ran for her life.
I love this quaint version of Little Red because she didn’t suffer as a victim, nor did she require a prince or woodsman to rescue her, but she rescued herself. You and I can do this too.
Have you ever felt like Little Red?
Does life feel like a dark, spooky forest full of wolves? You might be one of the millions of people who don’t need to imagine this darkness because you’ve already suffered losses and lived through personal trauma—either as a child, or an adult partnered with a narcissist.
Statistics reveal that 1 in 9 girls and 1 in 53 boys under the age of 18 have experienced sexual abuse or assault at the hands of an adult. And there are many other ways to be traumatized which include neglect and physical and emotional abuse. If you’re curious about your Adverse Childhood Experiences Score, you can take the ACES test here.
Unless we heal from our past trauma, the dark woods of the past will continue to haunt us. Many people who were raised by narcissistic parents were abused as children have married an abuser.
Narcissistic Abuse Can—
Leave you without a sense of self
Trigger PTSD, anxiety attacks, and hypervigilance
Inhibit your ability to finish things or find a career
Cripple your relationships and leave you feeling alone
Destroy your faith in God
Affect your physical and mental health
Many people who were raised by a narcissistic parent and abused as a child also married an abuser. Others stumbled into marrying a narc unaware of what they were getting into. Many find themselves mired in addictions as a way to escape the past. Until we heal from our trauma, the dark woods of the past will continue to haunt us.
What Happens in Childhood
Never Stays in Childhood
Our only hope is to escape the lies and break the patterns of narcissism. But it takes a dedicated effort to overcome the gaslighting, scapegoating, and ignore the flying monkeys—let alone recognize the toxic lies in religious narcia.
Every month Little Red Survivor’s Thrive Edition will land in your inbox encouraging you to avoid the swamp and overcome the darkness by sharing stories and educational tips about surviving and thriving after narcissistic abuse.
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive, with passion, compassion,
humor, and style. -Maya Angelou
It’s gonna be fun!
My name is Cherilyn Christen Clough. No, I’m not little and I’m not Red—Little Red Riding Hood is the symbol of all who were abused in the name of love. Many of us have a lot in common with her.
I grew up isolated, on the move, and without any friends or high school education, because my parents thought the world would end before I grew up. As a survivor of narcissistic and religious abuse, I wholeheartedly believe no matter what happened to us in the past, we can find our healing in the present.
I’ll be honest with you, I’m not a therapist—I’m just a fellow survivor trying to negotiate life’s chaos and finding ways to live my best life. If you’d like to read the story of my childhood, you can find my book here.
Since publishing my memoir, I’ve noticed continued healing—from going places I avoided, to losing 45 lbs. This is a result of releasing my story to the world. I wasn’t meant to hide my pain—and you weren’t either! When we share our stories with each other, we discover we are not alone!
If we own our stories, we can avoid being trapped as characters in the stories someone else is telling. -Brené Brown
So Here Are the Details:
Little Red Survivor’s Thrive Editon will come directly into your email inbox each month. This allows you to read it when you have the time and hopefully you can make your favorite hot drink, relax a little and maybe even add your comments to the conversation—I’d love that!
Just make sure you add this email address to your "trusted" list—otherwise, this email could end up in your spam folder.
The first week of Little Red Survivor will ALWAYS be free, while on the other three weeks, I’ll be sharing exclusive content for just $5 a month or $40.00 a year.
This will include:
The Always FREE Little Red Survivor’s Thrive Edition
Stories and tips about overcoming narcissistic abuse
Little Red Survivor’s Religious Narcia Edition
The patriarchy and false prophets are promoting narcissism and religious abuse in the church—let’s educate others and rise up against it!
Little Red Survivor’s Resistance Edition
Current events that relate to equality and the evil we see in the world around us. Let’s share our stories so we can cope, resist and pay it forward!
Little Red Survivor’s Book Edition
Here we read and will discuss interesting books about surviving and occasionally, I might share parts of my memoir Chasing Eden for discussion, answer your questions and allow you a chance to share your own experiences. I also plan to offer a few sneak peeks of my sequel to Chasing Eden.
BONUS: If you’d like to be a beta reader or join the book launch team for my next book, you’ll automatically have that opportunity as one of Little Red Survivor’s paid subscribers.
Now, I think $5 a month or $40 a year is a reasonable amount for all of this, but I don’t want anyone to be left out due to money concerns, so if you genuinely can’t afford the monthly subscription, let me know. I’ll figure something out.
So go ahead—the least you can do is sign up for Little Red Survivor’s Thrive Edition! And please do share this post with any kindred spirits you think might benefit.
Peace and freedom to you!